Thursday Thirteen, #57

September 24, 2009

thirteen things

you might find

in

MON-MON’s

tiburon

1. at least one pair of shoes

2. jumper cables

3. several bottles of water in various stages of fullness

4. parking receipts from different days from the college parking lot

5. two umbrellas (one should be at work)

6. my book bag

7. earrings I’ve removed right before working out

8. lip balm that has fallen out of my purse

9. a La Fuente business card (my fav Mexican restaurant)

10. a car charger for my cell phone

11. a mixed CD with my favorite love songs (sappy ones too)

12. the Tranceport CD by Paul Oakenfold- something I always carry

13. my gym bag

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Thursday Thirteen, #56

August 20, 2009

Thirteen Things

Mon-Mon

Doesn’t Like

About Polyamory

(aka Poly Con List)

1.  You become a sexual deviant in the eyes of your family, friends, and society.  Monogamous people treat you differently, even if they say they understand.  I don’t even think its necessarily meant to happen, and yet, it does.

2. Your friends suddenly think you want to sleep with them.

3. Your friends get offended if you explain you aren’t attracted to them “in that way” and don’t want to sleep with them.

4. You have to unlearn a lot of societal conditioning – while this can be a good thing, it’s not exactly easy.  Especially when you are in crisis and need support and all you have to turn to are friends who share that societal conditioning.  It would be so much easier to just give into the conditioning.

5. Everyone thinks you will sleep with anyone – as if suddenly you don’t have any standards or morals.  Being non-monogamous is not the same thing as being immoral.  Not that I believe sleeping with a lot of people is immoral – I’m more focusing on the societal conception of sleeping with more than one person and how they tie that into their view of non-monogamous people.  Besides, many poly people I know are even more picky than some of my single, serial monogamist friends.

6. People don’t get you because you aren’t practicing a “normal” love style.  There isn’t much understanding in the world for poly people and sometimes that is downright tiring.

7. Society has an insane aversion to jealousy – which is quite prevalent in the world in general and in polyamorous relationships as well.  If you try to explain why you’re jealous to a non-poly person, their attitude is akin to “well, what did you expect?.”  Jealousy is just an emotion; just because you’re poly doesn’t mean you suddenly lose all emotion.  It just means you are willing to accept it will happen and willing to work to control jealousy instead of letting jealousy control your life.

8. Polyamory takes brutal self honesty – BRUTAL.  You can’t hide from yourself and be successful in poly.  Lying to yourself in poly will destroy your relationships – even long term marriages fail because people lied to themselves in poly.  You will give into societal programming and probably believe poly is evil instead of recognizing there isn’t any evil, you just weren’t honest with yourself.

9. You will meet a lot of people who “think” they can be poly but in practice have a hard time “being” poly.  And this can cause a lot of pain.  A lot.

10. The dating pool shrinks because few people “get” polyamory.  They think you can’t commit.  They think you are a player.  They think they can’t handle jealousy and want you all to themselves – to the possible detriment of any other existing relationships.

11. New Relationship Energy (NRE) while fun… can lead you down some crazy paths because it blinds you to possible problems with new folks and can negatively affect your existing poly relationships (but that is for another post, I think!).

12. The other alternative lifestyles out there don’t support polyamorous folks very well either.

13. You obtain a LOT of phone numbers in your travels and dating and it’s hard to manage them.  (lol)
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Thursday Thirteen, #55

August 13, 2009

Thirteen Things
MON-MON
Likes About Poly
(aka Poly Pro List)

1. The Personal Journey – I’ve learned so much about myself, how I love, and why I do the things I do because I walked down the poly path.  I truly believe most people go through life never questioning why they do the things they do and whether it makes sense.

2. The People - alternative lifestyles attract people who don’t necessarily play by the rules and who don’t just choose the road most traveled.  Poly also attracts very loving and very open individuals who look at love as a commodity best shared with everyone.  I like that concept. 

3. The Freedom – I need lots of freedom in relationships, and when I’m in the right relationship, I get that.  Freedom to me does not mean doing whatever the hell I want at any cost – but rather the freedom to express myself and be heard and understood by my partners. 

4. Flirting w/o Repercussions:  I’ve always believed I would find other people attractive even if I was madly in love.  Turns out I was right!  With poly, if I meet someone who I find attractive and can safely flirt without pissing off any partner they might have, my partner *supports* my ability to do just that… sometimes he *even* encourages it when he knows I like someone and I’m a little shy to act on it.

5. The Community – We have an active poly group here in Colorado, and I just love, LOVE the fact that we do.  One of the greatest poly organizations is Loving More (based in CO), and the woman who runs it is awesome, as is her partner that lives here in CO with her. 

6. The Online Community – I spend a lot of time online getting to know folks all over the world who are long time poly folk, new to poly, never heard of poly or trying to understand a poly partner.  I learn so much about interactions with people, how to express myself in a better manner, how to offer support and  advice without being judgmental – and I also get all of that in return.  I’m so very thankful for my online friends.

7. Acceptance – at least by people who understand how I feel about live and love.  For so long I felt alone because I could conceptulize how I wanted to love and be loved but the only models I had around me were lifetime monogamy (which seemed very hard to achieve), serial monogamy (which I found unappealing), and singlehood.  I thought I was destined to be a spinster or the crazy old lady with all those cats – until I found polyamory.

8. New Relationship Energy - the coin termed to explain the gushy, romantic, crazy, sexy attraction everyone experiences in the beginning of a new relationship (yes, even monogamists, gays, lesbians, etc).  We all love that first intense period of any new relationship. 

9. The T-Shirts – visit http://shop.cafepress.com/polyamory and search on polyamory.  They are wonderful!

10. The Poly Bloggers – I love a good blog, and I love a great poly blog.  I love it when folks get out there on the net to share their joys and trials all with the hope to help someone else who might be feeling as they do.  I just wish people read it to actually learn, instead of feeding some insatiable need to enjoy other’s misery.  Ah well, one step at a time…

11. Poly Blogging – I love being able to share my own poly stories and poly viewpoints with the group of folk who bother to read my blog.  It’s catharitic, fun, and I love to write so it fulfills that need in me.

12. The Get-Togethers – who loves a good party?  ME!  I DO!

13. My Poly Partner – Even though he was poly before I met him, and even though I’ve learned so much from him about loving honestly and with integrity – I also get to watch as he learns all of those items as well.  I’m also thankful that I get to enjoy watching his growth, all the while experiencing my own personal growth.

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Thursday Thirteen, #54

August 6, 2009

thirteen things

mon-mon

just doesn’t get

1. Why people who are turning right onto a multi-lane street must wait until there are no cars traveling in any lane in their direction before turning – even if they have a green arrow – and then they turn into the incorrect lane.

2. Why Niki the bird is so angry at me all the time.

3. Why people smoke… blech.

4. Mean people.

5. Why the more I exercise, the more I want to eat food that isn’t healthy for me.

6. Why women are so slow when the use public restrooms.

7. Why some people refuse to go the speed limit.

8. Anything in the kitchen (according to J)

9. Why my college believes giving an impossible amount of homework makes the class harder thus making the class worthy of a higher level designation.

10. Why inanimate objects are hell bent on pissing me off.

11. Why – no matter how much I run on a regular basis – it is still the hardest thing I do all day.

12. Why J doesn’t understand that birds are loud by their very nature.

13.Why I can never start the lawn mower on the first try.
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Thurday Thirteen, #53

January 8, 2009

thirteen things

you might hear

mon-mon

say

1. “I have no response to that.”
2. “You are.”
3. “That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.”
4. “Let’s get naked and jump in a pile.”
5. “Thanks, babe. It is babe, isn’t it?”
6. “I understand what you are saying, BUT…”
7. “(mumble, mumble, mumble)”
8. “I remember this one time when I was drunk…”
9. “I’m a Princess!”
10. “I don’t mean to say I told you so, but I told you so.”
11. “That’s what I said!” (even though I usually said the opposite.)
12. “You know Snowball used to say that/live there/do that…”
13. “Snowball lives!”
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Thursday Thirteen, #52

December 18, 2008

thirteen things

you maybe didn’t know

about

mon-mon

1. When I was a little girl, I was too scared to sleep in my room so I often slept on the living room couch.
2. When I was a little girl, I wanted to be an actress/singer.  I would often play act out whole scenes I made up in my head while I laid on the couch trying to fall asleep, silently mouthing all the words.
3. I loved taking baths with my mom.
4. The first boy I made out with later grew up to be a gay man.  I was a Gracie in the making way back then…(think Will and Grace)
5. I remember exactly where I was when the Challenger blew up – I was in the school library.
6. I used to daydream while walking to high school that I would fall in love with an older man and he would rescue me from my life.
7. I wanted so badly to be in love my senior year that I had crushes on every male coworker who was nice to me.  I went to school dances with two of those coworkers - the Sadie Hawkins dance and my Senior prom – and I didn’t even like school dances.
8. I daydreamed about everything and anything all through high school because it was a miserable experience and I just wanted to get away.
9. I hated my teeth so bad in high school that I never willingly smiled with open lips.
10. I used to work the student store at my high school.
12. I changed my name the first time I moved away from Colorado because I wanted to get away from everything and everyone.
13. I haven’t daydreamed for years and years and years.  My life keeps me too busy to daydream anymore!
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Thursday Thirteen, #51

December 11, 2008

Thirteen Things

Mon-Mon

Remembers

(aka 13 Memories)

1. Waking up in the middle of having 27 stitches placed along my right ear after a neighbor’s dog bit me when I was really little.
2. My brother, Richard, carrying me home from the neighbor’s house after I stepped on a nail when I was five years old.
3. My daddy playing with my toes as a little girl.
4. Playing with my cousins in the creek behind the family house in New Mexico.
5. Waking up to and sitting down to a huge breakfast every weekend that my mom cooked for the family.
6. The phone call that came early one Sunday morning informing us our parents had been killed in an auto accident.
7. The night my friends and I accidently locked ourselves in a public restroom at a lake at 2 a.m. across the street from a police station – alcohol was a factor.
8. The very first paycheck I received after accepting a contract job that doubled my salary.
9. The day I signed the mortgage papers on my house (gulp).
10. The first time I had all of my friends and family over to my new house for food and fun.
11. The first time J put his hand on my leg at a bar over drinks with a coworker – and I knew he liked me.
12. The first time J told me he loved me.
13. The night J and I had our first real date with N, none of us knowing where it might lead.
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Thursday Thirteen, #50

October 9, 2008

Thirteen Reasons

MON-MON

Thinks We All

Should Vote

13. You might end up in the papers/news if voting turns out as ugly as it did last year in Colorado (think long lines people).
12. It’s fun to fill in the bubbles with your #2 pencil.
11. It gives you a legitimate reason to gripe if your candidate doesn’t win and the country gets worse.
10. Think of all the people you will meet while standing in line waiting your turn.
9. If you are a Democrat, you will piss of the Republicans… if you are a Republican, you will piss off the Democrats. If you’re independent, then you get to choose who you piss off.
8. A lot of people you never met died to give you the right to vote.
7. It gives you a legitimate reason to miss work/school/family breakfast or dinner if you vote in person.
6. Not voting because you don’t like your choices makes you whiny and spoiled.
5. Not voting is still making a choice – so really, you are still playing the politcal game just in a really bad way.
4. If you don’t vote, your friends and family will probably give you a hard time. (that might be an incentive not to vote for some of you)
3. It will piss off a lot of dictators in other countries who want the USA to fail and probably believe people not voting because they’ve lost confidence in the country’s leaders is proof the USA will fail.
2. Your vote does matter – unless it’s a really, really close vote then it doesn’t (think Florida people).
1. We need some change, people. Let’s make it happen.

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Thursday Thirteen, #49

October 2, 2008
Thirteen Thingsthat scare

Mon-Mon

13. My neighbor across the street – she’s been MIA since she totaled the Jeep.
12. Open windows while I’m sleeping.
11. The Media – the try to scare us with everything – I don’t know which to fear more – the Presidential election, global warming, Iraq, China, the economy… the list goes on and on.
10. Barack Obama – he sounds good but really?
9. Congress – WTF is going on there?
8. Kristi Burton – really?!?
7. Crazy drivers
6. Losing my job
5. Sarah Palin
4. Spiders
3. John McCain – what is going to change with him?
2. Our economy
1. Wallstreet

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Thursday Thirteen, #48

September 11, 2008

Thirteen Things

you should know about

MON-MON

In honor of my birthday weekend, and in keeping with the theme “all about mon-mon”, this is an interactive Thursday 13.

How many questions can you get right about me?  Feel free to answer in comments.

I will post the answers in next week sometime.

1.  What was the first day I started blogging?

2.  How many kitties live in my house?

3.  What is one nickname I have for my boyfriend?

4.  Why am I scared of our washing machine?

5.  What is my hands-down favorite TV show of all time?

6.  What is my favorite cake type?

7.  What is the date of my earliest “actual conversation?”

8.  How old was I when I first kissed a girl?

9.  What is my favorite candy?

10.  What is my favorite drink?

11.  Who are my husbands?

12.  How did I meet my girlfriend?

13.  Who lives?

Bonus Question: When is my actual birthday?

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