Comments on: The Visit http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/ Life. It's just one damn thing after another. Thu, 05 Jan 2012 07:15:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Shasta Gibson http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1399 Sat, 26 May 2007 18:36:57 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1399 Hold onto that feeling. Even if the two of you never *really* reconcile, at least you have a few good moments right now.

My dad has called me every year at Christmas time over the past three years. I never bother answering. I won’t indulge his need to dump another load of his guilt onto me.

I do hope that your brother gets well

*Hugs*
Shasta

]]> By: mmkeekah http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1392 Fri, 25 May 2007 19:15:04 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1392 Heidi – thanks. I hope you still feel that way after you read tomorrow’s blog.

]]> By: Heidi http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1391 Fri, 25 May 2007 19:08:49 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1391 you made me cry.

what a gift you have given your brother…and yourself.

]]> By: mmkeekah http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1390 Fri, 25 May 2007 17:17:36 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1390 Shasta, I should add that my brother has made contact in the past, most recently a few months ago. Perhaps he wanted a reconciliation. While I was never rude, I also wasn’t exactly welcoming either. So many old wounds, as you said.

I don’t know what the future will bring but the visit, it felt right. I am holding on to that feeling even as I’m writing more posts…

]]> By: mmkeekah http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1388 Fri, 25 May 2007 16:35:20 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1388 Shasta, I am sorry you can relate. I feel for you and thanks for sharing…

]]> By: Shasta Gibson http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1387 Fri, 25 May 2007 16:18:40 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1387 My father, who I hadn’t talked to or seen in a couple of years, called me the day he went in for open heart surgery. Probably in case he died.

I packed up my son, some clothes, and my very pregnant self and drove three hours to the city where his operation was taking place. I imposed myself on my in-laws and went to the hospital twice a day to see my dad.

There are a lot of burned bridges between him and I. Plenty of reasons that we hadn’t spoken for such a long time and why I didn’t care if I never spoke to him again.

During the week that I was there visiting I could tell he didn’t want me there. He hardly acknowledged that I was making an effort to be supportive of him.

I haven’t spoken to him now in nearly three years, and I doubt I ever will again. Too many old wounds for me to overcome if he’s not at least going to make an effort.

Anyway, I can relate to this post. I’m somehow glad that your brother was pleased to see you.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

]]> By: mmkeekah http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1385 Fri, 25 May 2007 15:15:17 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1385 My heart is strong, tis true. But I almost cried at your comment. I am just me. I don’t know how else to be… Thanks, Bren. Miss you!

]]> By: Brenda http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1383 Fri, 25 May 2007 15:11:01 +0000 http://anexistentialkeekah.com/2007/05/25/the-visit/#comment-1383 You have the heart of a lion. Enough said.

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