an existential keekah

I’ve been tagged by Shasta Gibson over at Stiletto Diaries – one of my fav blogs online. So for this list I’m to reveal five things about myself I have yet to reveal while blogging. Hmm… this will be a challenge for sure. So to make it even more interesting, I’m going to focus on five things about me with regards to polyamory.

1. The first time I heard the term polyamory was not from my boyfriend but from an article in a local Denver newspaper before I moved to Saint Louis. The article spoke specifically about folks in Denver who were practicing polyamorists. I was intrigued.

2. The first time my boyfriend mentioned poly to me was a week after I moved to Saint Louis and he was telling me he was in love with another woman.

3. The first person I thought of when I first considered another relationship outside of my boyfriend was my now current girlfriend.

4. There are aspects of polyamory that do not sit comfortably with me. Specifically the folks who value the ideology of polyamory more than they do the people within the relationship. Total honesty is all good and great but is not as important as compassion. And certainly not more important than the people you claim to love.

5. Poly relationships really make you face the demons in your own closet. Poly makes you look at your deepest, darkest insecurities and realize that the only person treating you badly is you. Poly teaches you to love yourself first and foremost. Wait… is that three in one?

The second part of this is to tag three people… the thing is – I can’t tag people. So I invite anyone who reads this and wants to participate to join in. I will read it!